Anal sex

Anal sex refers to all sorts of practices,

like fucking, getting fucked, rimming, dipping, and more. Some people are always up for it, while for others it can depend on the situation. The most important thing is to respect yourself. If you don’t want to do something or are not in the mood, it’s important to communicate this to your partner or partners. Sex is about pleasure, not coercion.


If you’re a bottom, relax, and go at your own pace – penetration should never be painful!

These days there are many ways to protect yourself from HIV infection or reduce the risk.



Condoms have long been recognized as effective. They can provide reliable protection against HIV and other STBBIs. Here are a few tips that will help you make the most of this prevention method:

Use latex or polyurethane (latex-free) condoms for anal penetration. In group situations, follow the golden rule: “When you change holes, change condoms.” This means that if you’re having sex with more than one person, you need to change condoms every time you change partners.

Because there are lots of different types of condoms, shop around the same way you would for clothes. Condoms can be textured, flavoured, thin, or thick (to help delay ejaculation). Try out a few different kinds to see which you like best.


Before you use a condom, make sure to check the expiry date on the wrapper.  Do not use it if the expiry date has passed. Be careful not to damage the condom when opening the wrapper. Pinch the tip of the condom so it doesn’t tear during ejaculation and unroll it down to the base of the erect penis. After ejaculation, withdraw the penis from your partner’s hole while holding the base of the condom so that no sperm leaks out.


Lubricant makes penetration so much more enjoyable! Make sure to use plenty of lube and add more as needed, because lots of lube minimizes the risk of that a condom will tear or split open. To increase sensation, you can also put a drop of lube on the tip of your dick before you put on a condom. Be sure to use a lube that’s compatible with the type of condom you’re using.

For latex condoms, always use water- or silicone-based lubes. Avoid oil-based lubes and any other type of lube that is not compatible with latex condoms. This information will be indicated on the container of lubricant.

For polyurethane condoms, you can use water-, silicone-, or oil-based lubricants.


Using a protective glove is recommended if you practice fisting or if you use your fingers to play with someone’s ass or stick your fingers in their hole.

As with condoms, latex gloves should be used with a water- or silicone-based lube. If you or your partner are allergic to latex or if you prefer oil-based lubes, use polyurethane gloves (available in pharmacies and specialty stores).


There are two strategies that can provide excellent protection against HIV when you have sex:

PrEP: Pre-exposure Prophylaxis

PrEP is a preventive treatment that you can take before sex to prevent HIV infection. You may find PrEP to be a good choice as an HIV prevention strategy if you don’t tend to use condoms with your partners. To get PrEP, you need a prescription from a doctor. The medication can be taken daily or on a intermittent basis (as needed, before and after you have sex). It is important to take PrEP as indicated on the prescription, making sure not to skip any doses.

People can decide to take PrEP for a variety of reasons, but the main one is always the same: To avoid getting infected with HIV. PrEP does not protect you from getting infected with other STBBIs. If you have any doubts, concerns, or questions about PrEP, contact your local HIV organization.


PEP: Post-exposure Prophylaxis

PEP is a treatment that needs to be started as soon as possible after a high-risk encounter – within a maximum of 72 hours after a possible exposure to HIV (unprotected anal sex or sharing needles with someone whose HIV status is unknown or with someone who is HIV-positive and whose viral load is unknown). Because PEP needs to be started as quickly as possible, you can obtain it by going to a hospital emergency department. It is also available at certain specialized clinics. To be effective, PEP must be taken every day for a period of one month. As with PrEP, it’s important to take the treatment as indicated and not skip any doses.

These methods are proven to be effective if the medication is taken as prescribed. See the pages about PrEP and PEP on this web site for more information.

Top / bottom

Top: Active partner, the one who penetrates, who does the fucking

Bottom: Passive partner, the one who is penetrated, who gets fucked

Whether you’re a top, a bottom, or versatile is a question of preference. Choosing sexual positions is also often thought to be an HIV prevention strategy, known as seropositioning. During penetration, the bottom has a higher risk of being infected with HIV than the top. However, the top can still be at risk. It’s important to know that HIV can be found in the anal lining (mucosa) and can therefore be transmitted to the top through the inside of the foreskin and urethra, which are more susceptible to letting the virus through. The bottom can also still be exposed to HIV even if the top doesn’t ejaculate inside him because the virus is present in pre-ejaculatory fluid (precum).

In short, the best way to reduce the risk of transmission for both tops and bottoms is to combine several different prevention strategies such as condoms, PrEP, testing, or negotiated safety. See the Your Hook-up Kit section to learn more.


Serosorting consists of choosing sexual partners based on their HIV status. Some guys refuse to have sex with people living with HIV, thinking that this will protect them from infection, but this is not necessarily true. Given that one HIV-positive gay man in five doesn’t know he is living with HIV, only having sex with people who think they are HIV-negative won’t protect you from the virus.

In fact, serosorting is risky and its effectiveness can vary a great deal because it’s not always possible to be sure about your partner’s HIV status – or even your own. This is why some HIV-negative men decide to take PrEP, or to only fuck with HIV-positive men who have an undetectable viral load. It’s up to you to decide what works for you. Combining more than one method helps to increase your protection!

Some HIV-positive men also decide to choose partners based on HIV status. Being HIV-positive and only having sex with other HIV-positive guys is a safe practice, except when it comes to other STBBIs!


Dipping generally refers to the partial insertion of the penis into the anus, although it can also mean complete insertion without a condom for a few seconds, which people sometimes do in order to get really hard. Practices such as these that involve pulling out before ejaculation still carry a risk of HIV transmission, because the virus can be present in the precum of the top or in the anus of the bottom. The risk can be considerably reduced, however, if you use one or more prevention methods such as PrEP or taking viral load into consideration.


Being into felching means that you like to suck the sperm out of someone’s ass after anal sex. You might also like to share the bounty through kissing. These practices carry the same level of risk as licking someone’s ass (rimming, anilingus) or giving a blow job. Because they involve contact between your mouth and another person’s anus, make sure that you’ve been vaccinated against hepatitis A and B.

Being circumcised

You might have heard that being circumcised can protect you against HIV. Although studies have demonstrated some effectiveness in countries with high rates of HIV, in Canada, circumcision isn’t recommended as a prevention method. Circumcision is a personal choice that should be made for reasons other than HIV prevention.

Anal douching

Before having anal sex, many people like to clean out their ass using an enema bulb or anal douche. It’s up to you and your partner to decide if this is something that works for you.

Avoid douching with chemical products, which can irritate the lining of the anus and rectum or even remove a layer of protective cells, making it easier to become infected with HIV.

Using lukewarm water (neither too hot nor too cold) is the best option. Avoid too much pressure if you’re using an anal douche. This can be done right before sex, but you can also do it before you meet up with someone which will allow you to take your time. Either way, be sure to pace yourself and respect the limits of your body.

Douching after sex is not advised, since it can actually force fluids deeper into your rectum rather than flushing them out.


The strategies explained here increase your protection against HIV, but most of them do not protect against other STBBIs like syphilis. For this reason, it is important to get tested on a regular basis. If you like anal sex, ask your doctor to include anal testing (taking a sample from your anus) as part of the routine.

Taking viral load into consideration

Viral load is a measurement that allows us to quantify the amount of active virus in the blood. Viral load is considered to be undetectable when the level of virus is so low that it’s no longer possible to detect it using conventional tests. In order for viral load to reach undetectable levels, a person living with HIV needs to be on an effective anti-HIV treatment and receive regular follow-up by a physician.

If you fuck or get fucked by a partner with an undetectable viral load, the risk of HIV transmission is greatly reduced for both the top and the bottom, particularly if no other STBBIs are present. If you combine an undetectable viral load with another prevention method such as PrEP, the risk become close to nothing.

To learn more, see the section on Viral load.